Writing about how you feel could be a useful outlet, remembering these very strong feelings may subside as you get used to the situation.If you’ve a friend or family member who you can trust to share your concerns in confidence this may be useful, although you’ll want to avoid this escalating into a family drama.So while a relationship with somebody new often involves a lot of overanalyzing and sending nerve-racking texts, you won't have to play the guessing game this time around. We’re your best friend and we know you better than you know yourself. You have to figure out exactly what’s going to happen when the proverbial cat is out of the bag— your best friend is another female. Explain to your new girlfriend how you know your best friend, where you met, how long you’ve been friends. Follow these few steps for an easier “my best friend is a girl” induction process.If you’ve ever been romantic disclose that information and where things are now.
It was an electric feeling — like I got zapped — and suddenly I realized everything was about to change in a big way. Like this, “I have a dog, I live in an apartment in Queens, I work at a bakery, I have a son, and my best friend is a girl.” Yeah, we know that seems weird, and it’s probably going to be hard, but if you want to continue your friendship your new relationship this is absolutely vital. Take it from the girl whose guy best friend just royally failed at this, it’s not that hard. Your female best friend needs to be a part of your discovery conversations with your new girlfriend.Then give her the time she needs to process the information. Help the conversation go smoothly by bringing up things that your new girlfriend and your best friend might have in common. Send us a text at a random time of the day like you used to. Your silence will be incredibly hurtful to your best friend, so seriously 80/20 this one. Your new girlfriend and your best friend may not get along, but you won’t know that until you try. Don’t spend an hour trying to figure out what to call us. As soon as you know that your new relationship is going to go past a few cocktails or a roll in the sheets, you need to make a point to introduce your friend to your new girlfriend. If your friend is far away, introduce them online with a quick message or a skype chat. We understand that you won’t be around for our regularly scheduled Bachelor and Beer night, or you won’t have hours to spend chatting. This also lets her know you’re thinking of her and want to include her in your new relationship. But we’re terrified that we’re about to be yesterday’s news. You’re the connecting point between your best friend and your new girlfriend. But when you don’t do these things, you dramatically reduce our value to you and to our friendship.