It could lead to the same things that didn't work out with this past relationship.
For example, if you just ended things with a man-child who hates commitment and you find yourself lusting after a new man-child who hates commitment, you're doing it wrong.
After a breakup, you’ll go through a lot of complicated emotions, including two that can make the recovery process worse: the one that makes you feel like you and your ex are in a competition as to who can move on the fastest and the one that urges you to be with someone else because you can’t be alone. Running into the arms of a new person before you’re ready is not the way to get over someone. You’re not going to be alone forever – there are millions of people in this world!
You’ll either end up treating them as a rebound, or just hurting yourself even more because you’re not allowing yourself to properly heal. Just based on chance and probability alone, you will move on and find love again and it doesn’t have to be right now.
Perhaps even thornier than pondering what to wear on a date, where to go, who pays—not to mention how you even find people to date in this brave new world of Internet match-ups—is getting over your reluctance to take a stab at it. "A divorced woman may feel very vulnerable at this stage, in part because she used to have a spouse to 'protect' her and now she has to go out into the world on her own," says Diana Kirschner, Ph D, author of .
If you find yourself searching for someone very similar to your ex - not in looks, but in personality - hold up a minute.
Yes, some people have a specific type, but looking for someone who acts like your ex is a bad idea.
It can take a long time to feel truly ready to date after a breakup – and sometimes it’s hard to figure out. Give your heart the time and space it takes to regenerate the broken bits and heal itself.
Not all breakups are the same, so you probably won’t recover in the way you were used to before.