In The Moment On-line soap opera produced by the City of West Hollywood about the lives of gay men in Los Angeles.This drama that is viewed by tens of thousands of viewers online takes on the subject of HIV/AIDS in a matter-of-fact and candid way.Not that it’s proved much ‘use’ to me so far, as my love life is still as barren as Ken Livingstone’s political career is looking. You’re not given an option of sexuality in your profile – even though 23% of the UK population don’t class themselves as 100% heterosexual, with this rising to 49% among 18-24 year-olds.So, it comes down to the dilemma of whether you write it in your bio or not.That is, women may think I’m just hitting them up for some kind of Sean Cody-esque gangbang. Not that it really matters, anyway, as the number of online conversations I’ve had in six months has rocketed to the dizzy heights of two. The other bisexual men (in my experience) tend to all be anonymous and only there so they can chat to you about what you’d do to their wives as they were doing something to you, while concurrently they have a Barclays at the other end. There’s also probably the whole ‘Bi Now, Gay Later’ thing going on – if you need that translating, it means many gay and lesbian people think us bis are merely on a ‘journey’ towards all-out ‘gayness’, like some desperate contestant who really can’t sing but has been put through to Judges’ Houses for the humiliation-led humour of it all. THEN, there’s the even more terrifying platform of social media.Most probably with their wives asleep next to them. No-one ever seems to approach you for a genuine ‘date’; although I don’t think putting “You probably won’t like me” as my header helps. Few gay men in my age bracket approach me, which that head of mine (again) tells me is because I’m bisexual. For example: I’ve got back in touch with someone I was good friends with during my teenage years.
Most men were most active in the late night (40.2%), and on weekdays (64.1%).
They were both prepared for the onslaught of questions from friends and family, some well-meaning and others hostile, when they became engaged: “Are you straight now?
” (They are not.) “Are you going to miss the other gender?
Advertisements were displayed over the course of a 72-hour period and participants were directed to a Web-based survey.
In total, 604 men clicked through the advertisement, and 92 users completed the survey.