I was talking to my best friend Tracey Cunningham, the great hair colorist, and there were a couple of pretty girls working in her salon.I was looking at one of them, and I said, "I want to go on a date with her! I went to a Super Bowl party hosted by Wallis Annenberg, right down the street from where I live in L.It’s much more obvious that you are gay, and you can’t hide your sexuality.If you are a femme/butch couple or butch/butch couple, it is nearly impossible to hide your sexual orientation, or the fact that you are a couple, even if you keep the PDAs to a minimum.People who use terms such as “butch” do not necessarily identify as lesbian, further complicating the issue.There are many queer women who identify as butch and some heterosexual women who use that label. Should we say “lesbian,” “lesbian women,” “gay women” or maybe something else?I’ve added an LGBT column for the website to make the site more inclusive and talk about issues that affect some members of our travel community. Instead, it usually results in a number of questions where I feel like I’m the ambassador of all things lesbian — scissoring, dildos, and why some women choose an androgynous look – to a group of strangers I just met.
I experimented with women a lot during that time, but that was when I was in my drug phase, so I don't really count it.
This pressure comes from heterosexuals, gay men — often in the context of meeting lesbians at gay bars — the media and other lesbian women.
Here are some examples of those terms: There is a question of who owns these labels, if anyone.
This month, Dani from Globetrottergirls is discussing lesbian travel. Though I’ve had this conversation hundreds of times, the words “I’m gay” still don’t come easily, especially because I never know what reaction to it will be. If you are a femme lesbian or couple, it isn’t much different from solo female travel.
Nobody is looking at you funny, and you don’t need to feel particularly threatened in one of the 76 countries where homosexuality is not legal (in 10 of which it is punishable by death) — because nobody knows you’re a lesbian.