This is about saying "no." It is not about breaking up or slowing down the sex train.
I did say, "I don't think this is going to work out" and "we want different things," which are well-known code words for "I don't want to date you" but he wasn't having any of it.
Being straightforward saves this person mental anguish and wasted energy spent obsessing and overanalyzing your non-communicative behavior.
This person is, after all, someone who wants to find love.
Eh, that's a little odd but certainly not unheard of. Instead of raising your eyebrows and letting that question sink, unspoken, into his desperate soul, try this: "I'm so flattered. I don't feel the same way, but I'd definitely like to put the past behind us and be friends."7. Repeat after us: Workplace relationships are a bad idea. Not only is it quite possibly against your boss' rules, but if you break up—and heck, even if you don't—it can create major tension for everyone. Drill the fact that this isn't a good plan into your own head, and then drill it into his by saying this: "Oh, I don't date people I work with. You're tempted to treat this sucker just as meanly as he's treated you since the dawn of time, but alas, that conscience of yours is holding you back. Say something like: "Wow, I didn't see that coming. And you can always say this: "If I was a few years older or you were my age, I'd say yes. • “I didn’t want him to stop liking me.”• “I figured she’d think something was wrong with me.”• “I thought we were supposed to.”• “But he really wanted to, so….”It is heartbreaking to me that so many people, of all ages, do not realize that it is their right to say no to sex—at any stage of a relationship.In new relationships, people’s attitudes about having sex … are all wrapped up in fear, insecurity, societal programming, short-term thinking, and much more.