And he doesn't understand why it's such a big deal. He has to know on some level that when he asks her for half of the money in front of other couples they are dining with, he's drawing a line in the sand that says, "We're not really married. I am a HUGE advocate of keeping your finances and your assets separate until AFTER you have received the actual marriage certificate.
We still have our own money." They are definitely married. I bought my house on my own before Bill proposed to me, and I didn't put his name on anything.
In general, it’s only the money and assets you acquire your marriage that becomes marital property.
Keep this in mind when you are considering how to merge your finances!
It's not that he doesn't spend money on his wife or that he denies her anything (they both have good professional careers), it's just that they have never been able to agree on how to combine their funds in a manageable way.
As a result, she is bitter and embarrassed about how he acts with money.
I hear about clients who are engaged and buying homes together because the interest rates are so low and I cringe and pray that it's all going to work out perfectly in the end.
Before you took the walk down the aisle to wed your new spouse, you were debt-free.
Now, you return home to settle in to your new life and into your new reality.
From my friends to my family, I’ve seen couples keep their finances totally separate; completely combine everything; and then some variation of combining and keeping separate.
I’m talking about the actual act of combining your money.