“The last thing I want is a [platonic] male companion, unless he’s gay,” says the vivacious senior.“Do I want to have solo sex for the rest of my life? I would love to find another soulmate, or, at least, another man I have chemistry with.” Paulette was widowed at 70 after a very happy marriage of nearly 50 years.Twenty minutes later, we confirm to the pushy, pushy beer girl that yes, we would like the pitcher deal that comes with a free T-shirt. I lie to Balloon Girl and say we're visiting NYC from Montreal, partially because I think innocuous and spontaneous untruths are adorably appealing on first dates, but also because I might be embarrassed to tell her I live 20 minutes south on the Q train. I win a lime green trucker hat for knowing that Neil Diamond sings "Sweet Caroline." The woman at the next table openly expresses her anger to the MC that I have won this hat and she has not. I exchange my balloon crown and wear this hat backwards the rest of the night. We’re forcibly pulled from our seats to join the third conga line of the night that’s composed 60/40 of staff and patrons.Our chicken chimichangas and sizzling steak fajitas arrive. We both hate scary movies, we both unabashedly love Carly Rae Jepsen, we both think first dates are hard because expectations are very rarely aligned, and we both visited Disney World as 11-year-olds and found it gauche. My hands are on the shoulders of the server in front of me, and Matt’s hands are on mine.We opt out of the conga line, but there will be others. I’m having a lot of trouble hearing over these smooth Bowie interpretations.The vibe is intoxicating, and so are the excruciatingly sweet Bahama Mamas -- rum, Malibu, banana liquor, fresh orange, and pineapple juice with grenadine on top -- we’re now drinking out of penis cups. But hats are a hot commodity here, and won with ease.Senior daters also need to consider exactly what they want from a new relationship.Is it companionship with someone of their intellectual standing, someone who has similar interests and life experiences, and is single and available for similar reasons to themselves?
A frenzied 42-year-old Ukrainian Anne of Green Gables takes our order before she joins her colleagues on stage for a vigorous dance spectacular followed by a conga line led by a man with half his head shaved.Many older people report healthy and active sex lives well into old age."Someone might find out."This is one of the reasons given for not trying online dating.Consider this: what are the odds of someone coming across your ad among millions of others in one of the hundreds of dating sites out there?IAC, which owns sites like and Chemistry.com, started in 2011 for 50-and-over singles looking to date.“We saw a fervor for something just for them,” says Joshua Meyers, CEO of People Media, the targeted- dating subsidiary of IAC.