But there is a lot to be said for putting your best, authentic self forward so that you can attract someone who is attracted to you—the you.
I would want to know if I were needlessly turning away good women who might be a fit for me.
While chatting online pre-date might seem like a great way to vet matches, there's a "tipping point" at which all of that information gathering might be hurting your love life, according to a 2014 study.
A 2012 comprehensive review of online dating sites found that having access to a seemingly infinite supply of profiles "can lead individuals to commoditize potential partners." In that situation, it's pretty easy for people to become overly picky -- women can sometimes be deemed undesirable with Three words: paradox of choice.
(It's possible to do much more screening of a potential date now than before this phenomenon came along.) When most of the over 50 set was last seen dating 25 years ago, meeting took place at work, school, through well-meaning if usually misguided friends, or through that urban myth of going up to someone in the grocery store (did that ever happen, or at least happen without the police being called? Don't flee the scene just because something reminds you of a past relationship gone bad.
) But there are pitfalls, some are directly attributable to internet dating, some are collateral damage. A CLICK AWAY Red flags seque neatly into the biggest plus and biggest minus of online dating.
That being said, here are a few thoughts from me and a few other guys on what you might call “profile pitfalls,” for what they’re worth.
From duck lips to general pensive model poses, a lot of women seem to be taking their photo cues from Kim Kardashian.