But when she referred to their father as someone who was dating, the children were quick to insist that she was wrong."Daddy told us he won't date until we're in college," they declared.
"She's just a friend."Tears followed some time later, when the father asked his sons for "permission" to allow Joanne move in with him. C., author of Helping Your Kids Cope with Divorce the Sandcastles Way.
Eventually, you will want to arrange a casual meeting where nobody is being blindsided.Taking steps to reduce problematic responses, resistance and stress will help to minimize the effect on your children. You know your children and are best equipped to know how to handle the situation.The American Academy of Pediatrics suggests that you wait at least six months following your separation before dating. “Take some time to think through the needs of your children,” suggests Tuchman. Your children’s ages will determine how you should communicate with them.Children often fantasize that their parents will reunite. For example, if your children are fearful that dating will take time away from them, set aside special alone time for them.Reassure your children that they come first and their daily routine will remain consistent.