It is just assumed that monogamy is rare, if not impossible, among lively people, and the question never comes up."Whether my friend's observation is true or not (for I have many European friends who do seem to care deeply about their mate's fidelity), it certainly does seem that Europeans see marriage differently than Americans do.Marriage is for stability, friendship, children; love is for the adrenaline highs and lows of sexual madness, the romance of being appreciated by anew person, the joys of flirting, pursuing, and clandestine coupling. That may seem like no big deal to you right now, but back in 1967, it was a pretty BFD. Well, because, the Lovings were involved in the case Loving v.
"But, of course," he goes on, over a scrumptious lunch of stuffed roast lamb with wild mushrooms at Maxim's, "Europeans know better than ever to ask that question. Interracial marriages became legal nationwide on June 12, 1967, after the Supreme Court threw out a Virginia law in that sent police into the Lovings' bedroom to arrest them just for being who they were: a married black woman and white man. She often counsels engaged interracial couples through the prism of her own 20-year marriage – Reverand Lucas is black and her husband, Mark Retherford, is white."I think for a lot of people it's OK if it's 'out there' and it's other people but when it comes home and it's something that forces them to confront their own internal demons and their own prejudices and assumptions, it's still really hard for people," she said.Being thoroughly American (despite all the time I spend in Europe), my life has been a tribute to the American way of serial monogamy: passionate exclusive attachments, most of which have lasted about seven years.I am a bonder, a marrier, who marries for love against all reason and who stays as long as love lasts.