’ Okay, what they're really asking is ‘Am I enough? ’ How to Generate the Love You Want Instead of Waiting for It to Happen Because at any point in life, you have the option to elevate those around you -- with a look, a touch, a phrase of praise, genuine appreciation. And instead of coming from a place of lack or need, you're coming from abundance, joy, and choice.
Well, 5000 or so letters I've received from women readers on their dating woes can all be boiled down to this: ‘Does my butt look good in these pants? Focus on this question instead: ‘How can I make the people around me feel like a million bucks?
Those kids graduate and pretty much continue to have the same dating woes — only now with fewer single people around living in the same building and sharing meals with them every day. Take piano, violin, tennis, swimming and Tibetan throat-singing lessons. Be ‘well-rounded.’ Well, you’re a talented little bugger. At the same time, there’s an opportunity cost associated with achievement.
So if they had challenges then, it gets about 1000 times worse once they’re expelled from the warm womb of alma mater. On the other hand, it makes screw it up (or a computer). Time spent studying, doing homework, and practicing the violin is time not spent doing other things — like chasing boys or girls, which turns out is fairly instrumental in making you a well-rounded human.
In fact, the smarter you are, the more clueless you will be, and the more problems you’re going to have in your dating life. — and then continue doing of what you were doing before.
I can think of no better praise.’ ‘I have read many books about relationships and dating, but The Tao of Dating is one of a kind, so different and mind-blowing in its common sense and simplicity that it is impossible to put it down once you start reading.’ ‘Thanks to this specific book, I went from having a nonexistent dating life, with empty weeks stretching ahead, to being booked every night of the week...
The results were dramatic: I now feel like I have my pick of the litter with a slew of fabulous guys who all clamor for my attention.’ Why I wrote this book: When I was an advisor at Harvard, I noticed that smart women like yourself were having unfulfilling love lives on an epidemic scale. Partially because I'm not your grandma, and partially because the 21st century poses unprecedented challenges to the modern woman.
books specifically for really smart people (both women and men).
The writing of the books was precipitated by the endemic dating woes on the Harvard campus, as I observed them as an advisor and, earlier, wallowed in them as a student.