When most lay people think of OCD, they envision hours of hand washing or compulsive lock checking.
However, there are numerous equally exhausting sub-types of OCD in which the compulsive symptoms are less overt, and which together are colloquially described as Pure Obsessional OCD, or “Pure O”.
So, you low-key constantly feel like your life is in shambles.
My boyfriend doesn't have the kind of comprehensive “to-do” lists I subscribe to on a daily basis to get me from point A to point B in one fluid motion. I can understand how this makes him feel like everything he's doing is inadequate, like I have it all figured out.
The first time she witnessed this, she thought I was overreacting and told me to “calm down — it’s just a little bit messy.” Yet my mind couldn’t think of anything else but the books that weren’t perfectly aligned, the pile of paper that wasn’t neatly stacked, the odd objects — a pen, a lighter, and some sunglasses — that were strewn about without any care about their placement in relationship to all of the other objects.
If you are committed to working at the relationship, make it clear to your partner that OCD is something you are willing to talk about and want to understand more about.But this isn't only difficult for me — and I have had to come to terms with that. I can't always explain why I do the things I do and that can make communication hard. He can't fully comprehend the way I'm feeling, and so, a lot of my behaviors are alien to him.My boyfriend has to cope with my disorder as much as I do because he loves me and is in a committed relationship with me. These are some serious struggles you'll face when dating someone with OCD.Well-intentioned family members, friends, and therapists often suggest that We are all conditioned by the media to focus on the honeymoon stage of a relationship – the fireworks and drug-like hunger described in love songs, romance novels, and Hollywood happy endings.When faced with a real person, full of flaws and humanity, it can be difficult to let go of the dream of true and perfect love long enough to see the good thing standing right in front of us.