Individuals with AS don’t process information the same way everyone else does.
According to Ariel, research using brain scans have shown differences between the brain structure and shape of people with AS vs. People with AS have a tough time picking up on nonverbal cues in interactions and understanding people’s emotions. They may fixate on their own interests and appear like they’re self-absorbed and just don’t care about others.
Ultimately, only one thing allowed them to start again from scratch - they uncovered the reason for Keith's 'insensitivity', his aloofness, the fact that he could see no future with Sarah nor seemed to want one: Keith has Asperger's syndrome (AS). Asperger's - a developmental condition that falls within the autism spectrum - was identified more than 60 years ago but became a standard diagnosis only in 1992 when it entered the World Health Organisation's diagnostic manual.
As a result, the majority of adults with the syndrome almost certainly grew up without knowing they had it.
Finding a life partner is not always about finding the person you think is best for you but rather someone who compliments you, adds to what you lack, who is not perfect but who appreciates you for who you are and who is willing to put in the work that an intimate, lasting relationship requires.
Focus less about what you want and more about what you need.
All romantic relationships have challenges and require some work.
When it comes to dating, not only is it hard to meet someone you might want to date but when you do it’s even harder to know what it takes to make that date successful.
With age and experience, it’s sometimes harder to “get back out there” and try the dating scene again.
For many adults with Asperger’s even dating for the first time seems like an insurmountable obstacle.
As always, Keith has switched off his mobile phone because, as he puts it, 'my time here is with Sarah'.
They won't see anyone else - Keith has no friends of his own and doesn't feel comfortable socialising - but plan to eat lots of chocolate, walk and watch television.