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So what are the most common relationship must-haves and can’t-stands?
We analyzed what more than 720,000 e Harmony members selected from a list of 50 options for must-haves and 50 options for can’t stands.
As you get started making your list, think about your previous relationships and what worked really well with those partners and what didn’t.
Try to picture how you’d want your new relationship to be one, five or 10 years down the line, remembering that you will probably be spending a lot of time with that person.