It's less than a relationship because there is no commitment or conversations about your future together.Casual dating is supposed to be fun, light, and usually temporary. There are so many gray areas, the only thing you know for sure is what their name and number is.It was sad, but sorely needed; the entirety of my twenties had been devoted to two women, and I’d been serial-monogamizing since my teens — often discovering the desire for a new commitment before the old one had completely run its course, jumping from sinking ship to sinking ship, and continually passing up other, perhaps healthier opportunities I had made myself unavailable to pursue.While being with someone for years might suggest you have something figured out, it’s not that hard for two people to stay together out of comfort, or insecurity, and ignore the increasing fights, the growing gnaw of panicked apathy, until something finally triggers the end. Over time I had learned a lot about — least of all, myself.I recently dated a man I’d met in a pub who, after three months of dinners, sleepovers and incessant Whats Apping, casually said, while pouring me a glass of wine, “You know this isn’t exclusive, right?” He added that he’d been hooking up with girls from Tinder between each of our dates.In relationships they create great confusion, havoc, pain, and anguish as their behaviors are often insensitive, unpredictable and bizarre.These types of men can make women who are saints turn into mad women, as they play games with their minds and their hearts.
If there’s desire, I’ll expound upon them, but I think they stand on their own.
If one of you is hoping your dating situation turns into a relationship, and the other is just interested in having fun, there's now different expectations.
This sort of difference in expectations is what causes things to get very messy, very fast. This goes hand in hand with being on the same page, and it varies case by case.
The stereotype of a “commitment phobe” might be a silver-haired bachelor in an expensive suit, or a young executive chained to a desk rather than a partner, but in fact it’s a growing number of middle-class twentysomethings with too much choice and too little time.
Promiscuity has never been so simple (thanks, Tinder!