Deciding to take such an unconventional step needs to be done carefully since there are many ramifications for children and friends.You wouldn't want to get children's hopes up, and your choice can confuse friends who have accepted your accounts of the divorce that typically frame the ex-spouse in a less-then-positive light.Let’s say you’ve spent the past year writing earnestly about your separation and eventual divorce from your husband. You vacillate between friendship and formality and a few slip-ups wherein you become lovers, but you eventually settle into a nice, friendly relationship with occasional flirting.
You maintain positive communications, for the most part, and congratulate yourself on a divorce well done.
Brian had just quit his job and I was pregnant with our first child.
We figured we would stay with them until Brian could find a job again, and then we would move out. It seemed like a hunky-dory idea, Sarah and Dan, me and Brian — the four of us living happily together, under one roof.
I later found out that Brian and Sarah had been sleeping with each other for two years, since Kim was born.
It was almost laughable afterward when I put together so many obvious signs that I had refused to see for the longest time.