At first I let her know how much I did not like him but eventually I realized that the more I spoke against him, the more she was determined to be with him.
She actually dated him for about 3 years but I think if I had just gone with the flow instead of letting her know how I really felt, she would have broken up with him sooner. If forced to choose at this point, she will probably choose him just because kids that age don't want to admit mom is right.
However the first 6 months there were a lot more hurdles to overcome, which led to the relationship breaking down.
Yes, I knew that he was divorced and had two children, but just knowing that he did want kids was to overcome the first hurdle of dating him.
As I was writing my response, I realized I was writing my next post about relationships. And while I only have limited experience with being on the dad’s side, I do have a little knowledge of what you speak.
He already had two children already and even though in the first instance he said he wanted to have another with me, I knew that he had started to change his mind 3 months in as I could sense it and I ignored the signs as I didn't want to face the consequences of that outcome.
Instead, confront your situation head on (if you want kids with a divorced guy) especially if he has children already.
Getting into a relationship and expecting a person to understand this strange dichotomy often seems too much to ask.
I have been pretty lucky though; I’ve met some truly amazing women, even if at the time I didn’t realize just how special they were. And I know I was too busy overthinking and questioning my choices.