Power struggles result when people try to avoid feeling powerless by attempting to force the other person to submit in some way.
Perhaps it is because we care more about our partners that we do for our customers. We feel anger and anger is a cover feeling for hurt. How do we get past the hurt feelings, the anger, at not being unconditionally accepted? We validate our partner's feelings saying to them, "I understand what your saying…how can I make this right?
Other times it is an attempt to avoid addressing the issue.
Examples of Minimizing People minimize a variety of behaviors.
But when you encounter defensiveness or misunderstanding, it’s easy to feel unsupported or to worry that the relationship isn’t working.
To reconnect with your partner, there are three listening skills for validating your partner’s feelings and to help feel heard and understood.