Similarly, a couple that only sees each other in short, intense bursts in between long stretches of non-contact (long-distance relationships and out-of-town hook-ups, for example) is probably going to want to have the DTR sooner – the intensity of that time together, coupled with the length of time spent when you together tends to necessitate making sure everyone is on the same page.
To give a personal example: my wife and I had our DTR conversation the third time she came to visit…
Seeing each other more often than that tends to mean you’re more into each other and you’re headed towards something more involved than a fuck-buddy relationship where you’re both enjoying the sex but you’re not interested in anything more.
In fact, if you’ve been finding that you’re seeing each other more and more often lately, that’s often a sign that you’re both becoming more and more interested in one another and invested in your relationship together – a sign that you should consider discussing just where you think the relationship is going. If you’re getting together twice or three times a week on your lunch break, but not spending extended periods of time together, then the DTR conversation can be pushed back in the relationship timeline.
He lasted all of one night, but it was one of those short term relationships that needed to happen.There are all sorts of short term relationship structures out there like the one night stand (ONS), the friends with benefits (FWB) and the play thing (PT) (regularly scheduled sex with one person minus the friends part).The priorities within these structures usually include a closer desire to fulfill basic needs like sexual gratification, fun, momentary closeness with another human being, touch, self-discovery through the discovery of new people, re-examining wants for long term partnership etc.And that’s the whole thing of it, depending on our life situations we all have different priorities when it comes to the length of relationships we’re seeking.Not only that, but there are marked differences in style, communication, desires, and things we’re willing to put up with when it comes to those structures. Often times people want a connection of some sort—physical, mental, spiritual—without it being so serious.