My ex-wife and I were physically separated for almost 10 months, mentally separated longer than that.
I learned of the phenomenon of “good enough” marriage, a term social anthropologists use to describe marriages that were less about finding the perfect match than a suitable candidate whom the family approved of for the couple to embark on adulthood And along with the sociologist Eric Klinenberg, co-author of my new book, I conducted focus groups with hundreds of people across the country and around the world, grilling participants on the most intimate details of how they look for love and why they’ve had trouble finding it.
Since I am the expert on this topic and the author of “Separated” is a Red Flag Yes, the word “separated” will scare women.
I filed with the court a legal separation and divorce decree at the same time.
The trick is to know this and handle the situation properly.
Yesterday’s was from a man who is legally separated (and will be for 3 years) and wonders if he’s screwed from a dating perspective.