Okay, but can I date a white person and still be woke?
So you’re frustrated because you’re interested in dating Black men but you’re constantly having to ask yourself if they’re even attracted to Black women because of how many of them treat white girls like the pinnacle of femininity.
It involves the full participation of all parties, such that no one is reduced to an object for another’s sexual pleasure.
Josh assigned certain physical characteristics to an entire group of people and made them the central focus of his desire (as opposed to holding space for the entire human being).
A lot of this can apply to dating any Black person, but both the nuances of impact and how things show up differs.
No matter how broad or nuanced a conversation about Black people dating white people is or must be, there is always a radio station, publication, or Facebook commenter who just wants to know how the conversation affects the woke card status of white-partnered Black people.
As I said, I'm not into the whole online dating thing.
Dean: I used Tinder for a nanosecond, to see what all the fuss was about.
In the process, he reduced the value of Black bodies to those characteristics – and ignored our individual identities.
Like many White people, my ex Josh genuinely felt that his attraction to cis Black women was a good thing.