I initiate contact with men in an age-range of about 3 years younger up to about 8 years older than myself.The potential matches that the site sends me are age appropriate for me, but when I look at the age-range that those men desire, (usually 35-50) I often move past them, knowing I can’t compete with women in their desired range, even though many of those men are as much as 5-8 years older than me!A fifth of a 20 year old’s age would be four years, for example, so they could date someone between 16 and 24 (four years older or younger).Based on this system, someone who’s 60 would have a 12 year margin, so the age range would be 48 to 72.I’m in my 60s and have found mortality weighs more heavily in this decade.When I read the obituary of someone who died in his or her 70s, I find myself silently asking, “Isn’t that unusually young to die?I’m guessing they check out my profile, see my age, and probably read no further.Even if I am within their desired range, I still don’t get much of a response.
What is traditionally deemed acceptable changes with age, especially as people grow older .
For 26 years now I’ve been helping singles find the solution to this dilemma through Drawing Down the Moon, which was the UK’s first personal dating agency.
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Age isn’t just about the time you’ve been on the planet, it’s about your attitude and approach to life.
With huge advances in technology creating all manner of age-defying treatments; better diets; dental care; and life expectancy, it’s entirely possible to stay looking, and feeling, young well into middle age.