“I’m not interested in a serious relationship,” he’d say.“I’m just looking for something casual.”I know I’m saying I just want to hook up at the moment, but if you stick around long enough, I’ll realize that you’re perfect for me — and we’ll live happily ever after, just like in all those romantic comedies your mother loves. I’d repeat the same pattern, hear some form of the same line, over and over again. They, too, had been dealing with paramours on the prowl for no-strings sex. But, ever the optimist, I continued to date, wary of guys who would tell me they just wanted casual sex right off the bat.My girl was over and we were talking earlier about how difficult a time it is for a woman to find a quality guy she likes a lot.She spooled off a quick list of men she'd been on dates with who hadn't made the cut: there was the older doctor who lied about his age, and the guy she went to the movies with who had touched her arm and creeped her out." I'm just thinkin' in my mind Like I ain't made it 'til I made a safe haven for my mom I think I fucked up too many times Don't think she fully understand the whole grind Wonder if Alana know why daddy go She can't get Doc mixed up as her daddy, bro [Joe Budden] I been there, playin' a role, couldn't take it They told me you gotta fake it 'til you make it Against my will I tried everything to embrace it And then I transformed into everything that I hated I always picture me spendin' bank in the district Then I learned you get famous before you get rich They'll think you ballin', you might have to bounce on Dudes countin' your money You thought that you could count on [Tsu Surf] Called my phone, tryin' to book me for a fuckin' battle I'm still havin' battles of my own Some battles I don't feel strong enough to win Even if I did, I rarely win them battles with Patron So pessimistic, I need to stop it, this shit ain't easy Alana called me, yellin': "Daddy! " Why I be feelin' stuck and shit Like this money ain't cuttin' it?[Joe Budden] Different stages, different phases Different animals, different cages Different charges, that's different cases Been the same me all along with different aces Every month, different cops kill different faces They indifferent, wish it was happenin' to different races Different decade, can't tell we in different ages Same gang, same result, just different places [Tsu Surf] I been tryin' to separate my wants from my needs Mom said I'm like my pops "That apple don't fall far from that tree." I couldn't quote her If he was anything like me we would definitely be closer But she kinda got a point Man, I need to roll another joint So much come with that pop shit Whoever confronted that pop shit Deffo wish we was closer, I hate it, but I chuck it up I was in the streets, a lost cause, I probably fucked it up I was younger though, that was just a lesson He left him when he really needed protection Say he and him, I hate sayin' us Late nights I was stayin' up Waitin', fell asleep, thinkin' I hate him Cold hearted ‘cause I gotta be, he ain't have to lie to me Man, why this shit even still bother me?We should definitely make conferences better, but that’s just point 1 of what should be a 10 point plan.If you work in technology and care about diversity and inclusion, then as well as all the things you know about — hiring inclusively, addressing your cognitive bias, not encouraging people to have sex at work, and organising better conferences — you should also think about making and nurturing power structures that don’t privilege being fearless in front of an audience.
Eddie: "Dear Eddie, by the time you read this I will be dead. Now we're good friends Eddie, we've known each other for a long time, we can talk. They fill his pockets full of change, push him into The Woolpack, and shout "Go on mate!
" did you say "No thank you, I'm terribly sorry, but I'm a lesbian"?
When I said "Hello my darling, would you like a Coca-Cola?
And yet I’d still willingly fall into flings with these guys. One Friday night, I’d double-booked myself on two dates.
After about a half-dozen such romances, I’d finally had enough. I was meant to have early drinks with bachelor number one, followed by a casual cocktails-and-appetizers date with bachelor number two.