To craft a stand-out email — one the object of your interest will actually an email without taking a few seconds to actually read a little about the person, you’ll wind up making an uninspiring impression.
“When a guy first contacts me, I like for him to reference something I wrote in my profile,” says Lindsay, 25, from Los Angeles.
You might send messages to several people at once, or you might contact one at a time –- it’s up to each user. Some people will write back to let you know they’re not interested, while others will simply ignore your message.
In some cases, the person you wrote to might not be visiting the site anymore.
If you’ve decided to become a paying member of a dating site, you can start contacting other users if their profile appeals to you.
These messages don’t have to very elaborate, since you’ve already put a lot of information into your profile.
“In my profile, I mentioned how much I love the Yankees,” recounts Scott, 32, of New York City.So please tell me it’s true before he makes me do something drastic, and I’ve already been warned that if there are any more incidents like the Swan Lake monkey-banana night of last week I’ll be banned from the store.-Eric The feedback:“This email is creative, maybe too cute. ’ and make it a statement instead: ‘I really find it cool that you enjoy reading Nabokov...’ And instead of ‘The little man that runs my brain....,’ I would simply say, ‘How could I not respond?’”-Roman Griffen, author of Internet Dating: Tips, Tricks, and Tactics“Eric will win a response because he (1) focuses on his reader: a woman who reads Nabokov; (2) shows interest in the same; (3) demonstrates a sense of humor about himself; and (4) initiates a discussion that has possibilities.”-Sandra Lamb, author of Personal Notes: How to Write from the Heart for Any Occasion“Of course an attractive woman can like both Al Green and Nabokov; why wouldn’t that be the case?Reports from dating-site users range from one who cited a ratio of “about a million to one” contacts to actual dates to another who had two dates almost immediately and is still dating one of them.Before long, you’ll have e-mailed back and forth with someone you’re interested in meeting face to face.