The thing to realize is that you can’t change anyone else’s behavior. What’s the point of me looking for other people when I was into her?She’s gonna do what she wants to do, same as you are. If she does, just let her know that you don’t want to see anyone else. I dumped the first two and instantly took down my profile for #3. Of course, such an admission can be a little intimidating for someone you’ve known for a week.The best way to see this clearer is to flip the situation over. She’ll either think that’s sweet and offer to remove her profile, or she’ll remind you that you’re just “seeing each other” and that she’s not ready to be exclusive. I did this three years ago and it worked perfectly. Which is why I reassured her that she didn’t have to remove her profile. And if she wanted to go out with twenty other JDate guys before taking her profile down, she could.
Or, in other words, when to stop going out with anyone else.
I was thinking of giving it a few weeks and if it doesn’t come up, to say something along the lines of “Since we’re exclusive now does that mean I should take my profile down?
” versus “I’ve noticed you still have your profile up, are you dating other people?
If he doesn’t take his down, would that mean that he is trying to keep his options open?
I know in your e Book “Why He Disappeared” you talk about mirroring his actions–ifhe calls, answer; if he sets up a date, say yes—so if he keeps his profile up, I should keep mine up too?