For many people, the relationship pattern seems automatic, like brewing a morning cup of coffee or sitting down to dinner every night. To find the answers, I began studying and interviewing the serial monogamists I know.I was curious how some of us manage to have so many meaningful long-term relationships, while others run away screaming after one strike out. They, along with some psychological research, broke down a few different reasons why the serial monogamy trend seems to be taking off. but traditional monogamy isn’t the most common arrangement.Empirical evidence shows that lifelong romantic partnerships have only existed in a handful of civilizations, coming in at around 20 percent of human relationships.
I found myself trying to get into a relationship right away, as if by habit or a defense mechanism, but nothing clicked. One year turned into three, and it was the best thing I’ve ever done for myself.
For serial monogamists like me, codependency is the unfortunate byproduct of a relationship.
When you’re dependent on someone else, or someone else’s happiness, for your own, you don’t know how else to make yourself happy.
I was caught in a bizarre modern dating triangle, and it was proving torturous., poly and otherwise.
"We aren't supposed to want anything serious; not now, anyway," author Jordana Narin writes. "My brief foray into the world of polyamory did not convince me to give up on monogamy.