There’s a scene in “The Fires of Autumn,” Irene Nemirovsky’s novel set in 1920s France, in which a young war widow named Therese thinks she is being courted for marriage by her childhood friend Bernard — only to discover that he wants nothing more than a fling. I say “naively” because it’s not the first time some newfangled technology has been mistakenly blamed for young people having more sex. But the moralizers of Nemirovsky’s era fooled themselves into believing that the automobile was to blame for loosening sexual mores.
The website ensured a representative sample by making sure participant demographics mirrored those reflected in U. Census data on race, gender, age and other factors.
In the Vanity Fair article, David Buss, a University of Texas psychology professor, says that apps like Tinder contribute to “a perceived surplus of women,” among straight men, which in turn leads to more hookups and fewer traditional relationships.
Here’s the thing: This surplus of women is not just “perceived” but very, very real.
A large percentage of singles are open to or actively seeking a relationship (88 percent of gay men and 96 percent of lesbians).
Finding a partner who is comfortable communicating their wants, needs, and desires, as well as having a sense of humor, are top qualities sought after by gay and lesbian singles.