But this is not a fair comparison because they often happen later than many first marriages.” Of course, for many, divorce is a traumatic ordeal.
Some spend more time trying to extricate themselves from unhappy marriages than they do living happily together in the first place.
If you’re divorced, or have ended a long-term relationship, well-meaning relatives and friends may encourage you to start dating again soon.
But how will you know when you're ready for a new relationship?
Clearly, these people are then going to want to be certain that any second relationship will stand the test of time before they tie the legal knot.
I interviewed one such person, Sue, for my book Couples.
says that second marriages only appear to do worse, “if you compare couples of similar ages.
Of course, not all late-life marriages are first marriages.
Many people remarry following the death of a spouse or a divorce.
In fact, they are usually really enthusiastic about doing so.
We might even say that getting to know one another better and more deeply is (up to a certain limited point, of course) the very of a dating relationship.