The codependent narcissist has become a super-giver to compensate for feelings of inadequacy, and doesn't realize when he's given enough.
The Borderline has become a super-seducer and user, to validate/codify their sense of worth.
They tend to be attractive, charismatic and appear to be really invested in meeting “the one.” A narcissist will often tell his new partner that he/she is “the man (or woman) of my dreams”, that they were “meant to be,” they are “soul mates” and will make him or her feel very special.
They usually want to move fast in the relationship.
None of it made sense, and it was practically killing me waiting for him to return to the way it was.”Because the relationship started out so well, and because the ugly behavior seemed to come out of nowhere, even the most well adjusted people can get caught in the narcissist’s web of deceit.
Later they may realize they saw plenty of red flags but because the narcissist’s initial illusion was so fantastic, the warning signs were ignored.
I was wondering if you could put out any content on how to deal with narcissistic, overly selfish women. Narcissists also tend to be incredibly charming, very charismatic, and quite colorful. the bright and shiny objects at the middle of the room. And they Chase woke up one day in 2004 tired of being alone.
I'll try to demystify this mutual attraction, and provide a little insight (as usual) along the way.This honeymoon phase ends quickly, often within 4 months, as they reveal their true self — and being with a narcissist soon turns from a dream into a nightmare.As one anonymous woman put it in an Amazon book review:“He went from loving, devoted, and committed to cold, critical, and most heartbreakingly, unfaithful, seemingly overnight.While the nature of those early difficulties were alike, they've played out in different ways for each of you~ but the scars from that time remain, unless there's been some serious core-focused intervention.Both Borderlines and Narcissists struggle with what I've coined, Bottomless Pit Syndrome or BPS.