But much of this too is to avoid the complex array of losses and challenges divorce presents a man.Many of these losses though, are a result men’s typical, if not default, role within marriage of being the financial provider.As expected, women initiating divorce ultimately identify their spouse as the “true” initiator.The irony is that men, despite their own dissatisfaction are more likely to resist divorce.
I see them making choices about dating divorced men similar to ones I made.
Furthermore, it is disingenious for the other party to be dating someone who regards their current legal bond so lightly. For an in depth and extremely conservative study on this subject see the book "The Divorce Myth", by J. Perhaps in an effort to avoid legalism, we have lost perspective on the fact that God does know best, and His ways are always best. Maybe a life of celibacy for the divorcee who simply stays close to Jesus is much better for them than the possibility of making the same mistakes over again in a subsequent marriage.) Perhaps we have come to the place in American Christianity where we think that because the scriptures state clearly that God is love, we don't have to reckon with His other attributes, such as wisdom, justice, etc. As to responsibilities of the church in regards to confrontation and accountability, the scriptures are clear (1 Tim. Confrontation must always be done with a view toward restoration of the repentant. Seek wisdom from your church leadership, if possible. The answer might be that in the case of "dating" there is no evidence of sexual misconduct and therefore no clear point of sin to confront.
In an even more conservative perspective, many would say that even after the divorce, remarriage may not be a legitimate option. I personally think that anyone who is currently legally married and yet is "dating" while awaiting divorce proceedings, is undermining whatever is left of their marriage and showing no regard for the possibility of a future reconciliation.
First, should one consider dating separated persons or is it an experience fraught with danger? Second,if one meets a divorced person how long does it take for them to get over their failed marriage and be open to a new relationship?
For background, here in Louisiana, a person must be seperated for 6 months before the law will grant a divorce while 1 year if there are minor children.