So figuring out when and how to start dating after a divorce can be a real dilemma for a divorced dad.
There’s no guessing if he’ll be a good father; you KNOW that he is. He knows how to be patient, gentle and encouraging.
You need time to heal and take care of yourself, especially when you are trying to parent at the same time. You might be tempted to keep your dating a secret from the kids, at least for a while.
Now might be a good time to channel your energy towards your kids as you transition during your divorce, so you might not have a ton of energy for dating right now anyway. However, in my years as a therapist, I have found that secrets can do incredible damage to a relationship, even when well-intentioned.
Almost any potential mate can handle a child that is not their own coming to visit four days a month.
It isn’t that big of a disruption in day-to-day life.