I have had a conversation with the new guy, and he is understanding and patient – but I also don’t want to keep him hanging on. But I applaud you for getting out there instead of pining away for a guy who demonstrated his lack of integrity by going straight into the arms of your friend. And then, when it comes time to step things up, they bail because they weren’t “really” ready to be committed for life. These are not bad people; they are driven by their emotions and are doing the best they can.
I find myself doubting all my feelings, not least because of the betrayal that I am still processing. Dear Susan, Thanks for the smart and self-aware email. There are two issues here that I want to address separately: I take a pretty cerebral approach to dating, but ultimately, relationships are about what’s in your heart. Is it generally a risky bet to date someone on the rebound? But do people on the rebound fall in love every day? Ultimately, you will never know what kind of relationship you have on your hands until you let down your guard and stop keeping him at arm’s length.
So my partner of two years left me without warning for a mutual friend three months ago.
He is a typical alpha with a lot of …erm…challenges…but I loved him deeply and completely and was planning a future with him.
Kim Kardashian is into Kanye West suddenly, after her just as sudden divorce (post a marriage that lasted 72 days); Ashton Kutcher, fresh from his split with Demi Moore, is allegedly living-in with Mila Kunis, the petite hot brunette from ‘Friends With Benefits’ and ‘Black Swan’. How do they fall in love immediately after a break-up? How do they start a new relationship right after the old one goes kaput?
Celebrities, hooking up, immediately after a break-up.
Falling in love right away will plug the holes and keep them from leaking.
And what if this person is the original Mr/Ms Right?
Or, should I hound him to give me closure, and do I need closure? Should I ignore my feelings of being used and abused emotionally? Through some personal exploration (and reading the rest of this response), you'll learn the possible choices to help you move on.
And if so/if no how much of an impact this relationship may have on us ever getting back together. I guess the fact it is or isn't a rebound, doesn't mean too much though in regards to her having a long term relationship with the guy?
Seems like sometimes rebounds turn into full time things? Become a better man and if you want to get back then be the guy whom she always dream of.
It’s similar to being stuck in a hailstorm and then coming home to a fireplace and blanket.
Well, it is because it is one of the best ways to get over a heartbreak. When you find someone that you like to be with right after a painful break-up, this new person helps you forget the pain, makes you feel better, comforted.