Unfortunately for all of you ladies, when a woman tried to make jokes, the results were not the same. But when a guy is funny, that can be a difference maker between the failure and success.Remember that guy from school/college/work, who was always cracking jokes, entertaining the whole company and made the girls giggle with his sometimes rude and naughty jokes?Basically, the researchers put 51 pairs of students, who didn’t know each other, in a room and left them to talk for 10 minutes. The survey has shown that the more men tried to be funnier and cracked jokes and the women laughed at those jokes, the better chance was that the woman had romantic interests in a man.If they laughed together, they were more likely to be attracted to each other. Even on a lively site like Ok Cupid, only about a third (32%) of first messages get any response. In the next several posts here on Ok Trends, we’ll be taking a closer look at messaging and finding some ways to improve your own message response rate. The idea is that this is the ultimate goal of the first message: to start a conversation with someone. Let’s start with this chart: The y-axis is reply percentage; the x-axis is message length, in characters; and the two lines are as follows. Green is the ratio of messages that get a reply that in turn gets replied to by the original sender.But when we factor in the Of course, we shouldn’t forget that there’s a certain amount of overhead involved with contacting someone (scanning her profile for common interests, thinking of jokes to make, taking a deep breath, clicking around, and so on).
We all had a friend like that at some point in our lives. Yes, even the dark humor sometimes works, but you have to find a person who is just as crazy as you for that to work.
The first, and obvious problem is that it’s time consuming to send out more emails, you’re essentially putting in more work to get the same results (just on a larger scale). I’m lazy…I have no desire to sit there all day sending out emails and checking out womens profiles.
I use dating sites to SAVE time, not add time (or a second job).(I know, strange behavior for a guy who makes his living teaching men how to attract women online.)The second, and least obvious issue is that there is no guarantee that the percentage of women who respond will remain constant.
When a little message popped up in the bottom right-hand corner of my screen saying “Hello, tall girl,” I screamed. I say “around” because I deleted so many of them immediately (having them sit in my inbox felt contaminating) that I cannot report with scientific precision the exact count. I actually think it makes me decidedly un-special, because to many of the messages’ authors I was clearly no more than one more female-looking thing who might be intrigued by the dashing brevity of a message reading only “sup?
I had myself signed in to chat accidentally, because I didn’t even realize it was there. In a month on Ok Cupid, I received around 130 messages.