As someone who has been an online dating coach since 2003, I’d venture to guess that I’ve not only seen more usernames than just about anyone on the planet, but I’ve written more of them as well.
Why do I think that usernames make a difference, when everyone knows that it’s all about the profile and photo?
In Finding the One Online, I give you 7 hours of audio, a 180 page transcript, a 35 page workbook – and tips on everything from choosing the right site, to writing a compelling online dating profile, to taking the right photos, to flirting effectively via email so that every single person will want to meet you in person. What’s the most memorable username you’ve ever seen on a dating site?
I’m quite sure our readers are not going to copy them for their own personal usage. The most memorable (in a good way) were a Blond Moment, Polyglotapus, and Toe_Tap_N.
A great username is a differentiator – a unique brand name – something that completely sets you apart from every other person on a dating site.And when your ideal partner is scrolling through hundreds of names – Sally102, Jen NYC1, Lawyer Gal – a great username can be the very reason that someone contacts you. And you become convinced that usernames don’t matter. In my opinion, a username should be a pun or a play on words. Wine Not – for the wine aficionado Lady Go Go – for the world traveler Bach To Bach – for the classical music enthusiast Tender Legal – for the soft-hearted lawyer See the common thread?Most people take one of two wrong tacks when coming up with an online dating username: 1) Putting ZERO thought into it: Bill10247, Claire T, Ally Cat 2) Putting minimal thought into it, using a literal description: Tall Doctor, Gorgeous Goddess, Fun2Be Around The problem with these efforts, of course, is not that they’re “bad”, but rather that they’re BORING. All of them are plays off of real names, idioms or catchphrases, which is why they evoke smiles from readers.It’s the first thing potential dates see, and as this humorous article indicates, it makes a big impression (sometimes unintentionally).It’s either a huge advantage, a huge disadvantage, or a missed opportunity! You can check out this link with a decent round-up of some of the very worst username strategies, but there are a lot of more mundane things that make for bad usernames.