well, I wouldn’t say “well.” With two such relationships making recent news in the discipline of philosophy alone, for some of the older generation of professors (again, mostly male), the grad students are still a dating pool—and vice versa.This is not just icky—it is highly damaging to the profession.Now, after the semesters over and final grades have been turned in, then I think its OK to contact someone and see if they want to meet for lunch. And unless you really like her a lot, I don't recommend dating her just for kicks or casually.Even after she graduates, there is some stigma to dating a former student. I would say once she turns 21, that would be even better for you. It's not the age difference- I'm 19 and dated a 28 year and it was one of the best relationships I have had- but it can only be bad for your job.On other message boards, most guys feel that women under 24 years old just come with a lot of drama, and under 21 is even worse. If you waited until she was completely out of the college you teach at, it would be one thing. Plus, you don't know if she is using you to further her educational needs. Even in an age when the feminists apparently control everything, it seems that the practice of older (usually male) scholars sleeping with much younger (usually female) graduate students is alive and …I want to ask him for coffee but haven’t because I’ve heard this might jeopardize his job. Lawyers date their clients all the time.” It is good and responsible for websites, whatever their topic, to raise ethical issues for discussion.
Breaking those rules could jeopardize the professor's job.Husband (49M) went to jail and was beaten/assaulted on a daily basis by other inmates.Now he is back, and he is suffering from PTSD but refuses to seek help or admit he has problems.It happens because in many academic disciplines—such as, of course, philosophy, which already enjoys a reputation for misconduct—there is a tendency for beginning scholars to have “philosophical idols,” as explained to me by Meena Krishnamurthy, an assistant professor at the University of Manitoba.(Just count the times this author uses the word “hero.”) Thus, the master/protégé dynamic cements power differentials that are simply too pronounced to create a healthy relationship, Not to mention the fact that grad-student/faculty relationships literally ruin careers: When a student and faculty member start sleeping together, rarely is it a well-kept secret; often, the student becomes a departmental pariah.