Men that treated me like a goddess and that always made me feel beautiful and sexy. I have also had to have that awkward discussion with a couple of them ( “You’re really great. I am just right mother fu*ker.) ” I just love dating fat girls. I think maybe when you’re immature and in high school you are much more insecure. I have certainly had lots of mean shit said to me online by the fat shamers and the trolls (and now by these men that I denied a first date to). And, as I like to say “Unless I love you, I just don’t care about your opinion of me any way.” If you haven’t read my article for the Huffington Post called “Do Not Settle Curvy Girls” here is the link : a reminder from me that the people you surround yourself with should LIFT you up and bring you jog.
Just so blessed in that department so I have no complaints. Just not for me” ) and a few of them just sort of drifted off into the never never land that is dating. Women who spend any time online know about all of the trolls and all of the shamers. I think once you become an adult, you become more interested in the WHOLE person and not the shell that person is in, ya know? In real life, I have never had any men (not to my face anyway) say anything negative about my big body… If they criticize you and put you down, you need to break up with them right away. Ain’t no one got time for that bull shit, as they say. Do not reply back with witty comments about their sad, pitiful life – no matter how good it might feel. “Please stop emailing me.” And then SAVE everything in case you ever need it.
) I almost wrote it all and sent it out last night, but I decided I need to cool off first.
Truly amazing men who were great friends, fantastic supporters of mine and some of my best cheerleaders for all of my crazy business ideas. It seems that most mature men don’t seem to even care about my body type. Maybe because I am so straight forward on my ads so then only men who are feeling me, reply?
And, for the most part, the online dating adventure has been exactly that. But, there have been a few interactions that have gone really really bad. As in “you fat bitch” and one that I reported to a friend of mine (who is a San Jose PD detective) that basically said I would be better off dead. Now, I am certain that this sort of thing happens to women of all sizes and shapes. Well, “you fat bitch” probably only happens to fat women. You can be a size 2 and get plenty of hate mail and comments. There are way too many amazing, uplifting people in the world to spend your days with those ass hats. And, if you find yourself being harassed online via email or message or texts, just keep replying with the words ” Please stop emailing me.” Or “Please stop texting me.” Be clear. And, when you get someone who is being rude via text or your cell phone – do NOT delete their telephone number from your phone.
It is so fascinating how one moment someone is basically begging me to go on a date with them and then the next minute, after I politely turn them down, that it turns so ugly. (“Eat a cheeseburger” memes come to mind.) When you are fat woman online, you get fun stuff like this: (And, I do believe in full disclosure. Just change the name in your contact to “Dick head. He made threats to me” or something like that so you have their telephone number and you NEVER mistakenly answer their call.
But being large and in charge doesn’t mean that you’re doomed to a life of being forever alone; in fact, you may find that you have far more options for finding love, sex and happiness than you’d ever believe possible. There are plenty of notable examples out there if you look around. Seth Rogan is no Abercrombie and Fitch model but he’s also happily married.
We dug deeper to examine the ethnicities of women that self-identified as curvy and discovered that Asian men more often prefer curvy African-American women and curvy Caucasian women.
African-American men were also the most likely to reach out to curvy Asian and curvy Hispanic women, which supported what we previously learned about online daters tendencies to date outside their ethnic group.
Large dudes will frequently lament that their size automatically disqualifies them from dating – they believe that there is simply no way a woman could possibly like somebody who’s body isn’t rippled and shiny like a buttered ear of corn. Kevin Smith, for all of his fashion sins that I will get into in a second, is happily married with a lovely wife and daughter. It’s easy to forget this when the TV and magazines are showing you nothing but image after image of cut, veiny men with swimmers builds with women draped all over them like fur stoles, but women actually like a far wider range of body types than we’d think.
Ask five women what their ideal male build is and you’ll get six different answers.