We get divorced, we break up and sometimes we lose our loved one in a more tragic way- to death. So the question we as men (and as a society) we have to ask is when is the right time to start dating?
About five months after my wife passed away I made very specific decisions about why I was ready to start dating.
One is ready to date again whenever solitude gives way to loneliness.
It is natural to want a partner, but the partner is not a substitute.“One should wait until THEY feel they are ready.
We’re always incredibly touched by the stories we hear and think it’s wonderful that both are taking steps to seek companionship.
However, some bumps along the process could possibly be avoided by not “crossing the border” from widow to divorcee.
Everyone mourns differently, so widows/widowers must be careful not to let other people dictate the speed of their recovery.”“Too many variables to say what is right for anyone the old year thing is probably wise as a minimum. I didn’t quite make the 1 year wait to date thing…and I made a mess, I think I will use 5 years to remarry as a minimum.“This is variable, and having been married to a widower, been widowed and later marrying another widower as well as encountering several men on the widow/widower board, I have noticed that men seem to be ready earlier than women.At Stitch, many of our members are either widowed or divorced, which brings new challenges to finding a partner later in life.It’s an unchosen label that both connects them to others that have experienced the same trauma, but also makes them feel as if a world made for couples has thrown them aside.Also, if the person was terminally ill and that illness took a long time to run it’s course, the widowed person may have done a lot of grieving prior to the actual occurrence of death and might be ready to date earlier than ‘the experts’ predict.For me, it was 18 months before I considered dating again.