You are grownup and you understand how important it is to be empathetic. They want love, companionship, romance and commitment and are doing their best to navigate the rocky shores of dating over 40.
Nice, successful, decent people who find themselves single at this time in their life.
She’s a much better writer than we have on the guy’s side of things!
Bobbi brings up things I would never have thought of.
Sure it will start with great sex and they will make you feel “alive” and young but proceed with caution.
Unlike a younger man who is still trying to work out who he is and what he should be doing with his life, you’ve likely past those stages and have become your true self as a man.
So, from here, you need to have confidence in the overall value that a woman will gain (emotionally, mentally, financially, etc) by being with man like you. Women don’t like it when a man tries to sell himself to her by listing off all of his great or beneficial qualities.
I’m no slouch: tall, trim, own my own business, nice guy to a fault. “L, you are kind, decent, funny, and attractive but I just don’t feel enough “electricity” (aka infatuation) so I’m going to have to end it.”The biggest obstacle I face it is meeting this expectation of “rock me to my soul connection” fantasy man that even they can’t explain.
Whatever it is, apparently I don’t have enough of it. In thinking about it, I’m not even sure when they say that, it’s the real issue.