For example, when at home everyone gets along and does activities together, but in public the child may ignore the step parent and keep a distance.The reason is because being in public is a less frequent occurrence when compared to being at home in private.Whether they decide you're the coolest dude on the planet or punctuate every exchange with "You're not my real dad" depends on your confidence in yourself and your readiness for parenthood.Depending on the age and maturity of the child, the upheaval created by Mom and Dad no longer living under the same roof doesn't need to be complicated by premature exposure to a succession of prospective replacements.Without the pressure of all that, there's a lot more time and room in a relationship to actually be in the moment and enjoy getting to know one another without feeling preoccupied by future expectations. He has a couch instead of a futon, there's more than beer in his fridge and you aren't likely to have to forage through his bathroom in search of something that resembles toilet paper.Aside from the whole divorce thing, he's likely to have his life together (and if he doesn't, run).That means 99% of people who date divorced men never make it to the finish line and here’s why. That means, no matter how pretty, smart, intelligent and perfect you are, his children will always be first in his life, especially if they are under 18 years old.You will constantly battle to be the pride and centre of his universe.
After time, the child will feel more and more comfortable and frustration will lessen.
It may feel right and your emotions may all be in the right places but in the long run you will be disappointed, hurt and in some extreme cases, you will suffer from severe depression.
Countless studies by many researchers, relationship experts and other professionals have concluded that if you date a divorced man, you have less than 1% of maintaining a long term solid relationship.
Here is Scott’s guest post that gives us a glance at the transition from single guy to married guy with step kids, and all the wonderful things that can happen if you are open-minded, have insight into what the kids are going through, and just give it time. But if you keep in mind what the kids went through, you will have a better understanding and be a great step parent.
Step Parenting – From Frustration to Love by Scott Trick Almost a year ago I went from being single to married with two step kids. Frustration One of the frustrations a step parent can experience is the fact that the step child does not know how to act in public with his or her new step parent.