The way to Paulette's heart is through her Outlook calendar.
“Honestly, if you want to be romantic with me, send an email through Outlook and give me all the possible dates, locations, and times, so that I can prepare,” she said.
Autism diagnosis rates have increased dramatically over the last two decades (the latest CDC reports show one in 50 children are diagnosed), and while much attention has been paid to early-intervention programs for toddlers and younger children, teens and adults with autism have largely been overlooked—especially when it comes to building romantic relationships.
Certain characteristics associated with the autism spectrum inherently go against typical dating norms.
The aspects of autism that can make everyday life challenging—reading social cues, understanding another's perspectives, making small talk and exchanging niceties—can be seriously magnified when it comes to dating.
Though the American Psychiatric Association defines autism as a spectrum disorder—some people do not speak at all and have disabilities that make traditional relationships (let alone romantic ones) largely unfeasible, but there are also many who are on the "high-functioning" end and do have a clear desire for dating and romance.
It also takes an acceptance by the partner with Asperger Syndrome of the different thought processing that the condition brings.
The Asperger syndrome partner has different skills and needs from their partner and these must be identified and understood in order to avoid problems. Due to the nature of our work, we are sometimes unable to take calls.
It gets easier after a while and the results are incredibly worthwhile – making an effort for the person you love means that they are able to be a more relaxed and giving partner. Unfortunately, there is little specialist support for couples of an Asperger Syndrome relationship and generic counsellors who do not understand how Asperger Syndrome can impact on a relationship may completely misread what is really going on. (2003) Asperger Syndrome and Long-Term Relationships. The quickest response to your enquiry is likely to be via email.
A lack of deep understanding of Asperger Syndrome can lead to a partner feeling unimportant and unloved, although this is rarely the case. Our trainers and consultants are all highly trained, experienced and published authors in their field.
The truth is that the partner with Asperger Syndrome has their own ways of demonstrating love and care and may not know that this is different to what is expected – only their obvious repeated failures and the distress of their partners give them a clue that something is not quite right, although that may have no idea how to fix it. We provide a whole range of support and expertise to both organisations and individuals and families, so please contact us to see how we can help.