“They always did whatever their husbands and rabbis said.I try to teach them that secular life is about doing what you want, not what you’re ‘supposed’ to do.” In Sara’s case, bars are key to absorbing the lesson.“If I could work magic in your dating life,” Israel Irenstein says, “what would you have me change?” We’re sitting at a table at Pret A Manger in Union Square, and Irenstein, a 35-year-old dating coach dressed neatly in a pale green Tommy Hilfiger button-down, is talking with Sam, a 29-year-old ex-Orthodox Jew.“I’m 29, I have four kids,” said Galimidi, who works in sales for a clothing company.
She’s bright, articulate, and attractive, dressing fashionably, and, not unlike secular women her age, she vacillates between expressing independence and yearning for marriage.
Married at 22 to the second woman he ever went out with, the Washington Heights lawyer and father of two is navigating the unfamiliar world of dating.
“It’s been hard, because I’m still learning the rules of the game,” said Zand, 36.
Her conflict is universal, her hurdles decidedly Haredi.
In one scene, she’s getting her nails done with a friend.