And after three months, if he’s not all-in, then he’s OUT. Or he got so used to the status quo that, when she pulled away, he missed what they had. It’s best to cut him off entirely until he lets you know he definitely wants an exclusive relationship and actively shows it.
If you’re dating the once-a-week date/text guy for 6 weeks, you should probably cut him off. You choose men who want commitment and actively pursue it. You get over this notion that men are playing games with you. I probably in retrospect did the same back and forth as the guy in the post. As for the guy in the post, I’d say he just wanted a FWB situation and was disappointed when she didn’t keep sleeping with him.
If you got their interest and commitment, you’d lose interest.
This lack of control causes them to overestimate their interest and their capacity for a relationship and they do this by Future Faking and Fast Forwarding you through the early stages of the relationship.
The promises, the thinly veiled hints about things they see you both doing in the future and the intensity, blinds you to paying attention to red flags and sweeps you off your feet.
You want to know why a guy is giving you mixed messages?
So, to sum up: You’re not wrong to be upset with the status quo. Here are the ways that you could approach this in a healthier fashion: 1.