At the end of the day, you want someone who is just as interesting around a conference room table as they are in a dimly lit dive bar.
Instead of having 15 minutes to get to know someone over a cocktail, you can take your time.
We have spent a lot of time together and have become very close. The problem is she has a boyfriend, and I am married but in a long distance relationship that is not working out.
I think she may be interested but she respects the situation.
Work is a way of test-driving a potential partner (ie getting to know them) before taking the plunge and asking them out. Etiquette: Dating a work colleague requires a good amount of old-fashioned social etiquette, not because it will make you any more attractive but because it will make the whole process a lot more comfortable and a lot less difficult, if and when the whole thing ends. Working with someone means forging an effective relationship.
Better still, you'll be seeing them during the day, rather than just propping up a bar with them in the evening. Work together during the day, pop out for a quick drink after work, Bob's your uncle. Everything is in order, from stress-busting massage at the desk to on-site counselling, so why not pick a mate there too? Hinting that you would like to take things further but never being specific can make the whole relationship uncomfortable, especially if it's a boss/employee situation.
The Chat-up: Fancying someone you work with is not a criminal offence and neither is asking them out. Are you in any danger of being accused of favouritism if you start to see each other outside work? When someone operates in this manner, it is difficult to know when to say "no, thank you".
It's always wise to keep in mind, though, that in the workplace you should think and plan before you act. What are your positions in the company pecking order? If you do tell this colleague you're not interested in them as a partner they may claim - unfairly - that that was never their intention in the first place, craftily extricating themselves from the area of conflict, leaving a sour taste all round.
There are obvious plus points to meeting your partner at work: 1.Should I attempt to take our relationship to the next level or just simply remain friends and see what happens?Craig Hi Craig, Wow, there is a lot going on in your email.If you’ve got a question that needs the female treatment, chances are you’re not the only one who wants to ask it. From opinions on men’s style to decoding the sometimes mysterious ways of women, she’ll take on a different question every Thursday.She also might provide an answer without waiting to be asked. Click here to get to know Beth, then get in touch with her by sending your question to: [email protected] Beth, I have a work colleague who I have a crush on.